I only have 3 goals for all 2017. Since my goals are more directions than destinations as mentioned earlier, it is important that I remember them. That way, every time I have to make a decision or when faced with an opportunity, I could ask myself: "Is it in line with what I want out of 2017?" Since having only three goals to recall, I was able to choose between A and B pretty quickly and to define which opportunity to grab, which to let go.

"I want a lotta thing in my life? How can I put it down to only three?" - you ask. Me having 3 goals does not mean that you have to as well. But you should keep it as small as possible, because well, there will be moments that you have to really swiftly take action and you can't just pull out an A4 paper of goal listing before you decide.

Therefore, to me setting goals is about making choices. Between what matters in your life and what doesn't.

Setting goals is about making choices between what matters in your life and what doesn't.

Then, what matters?

I can't define for you, but for me, it has always been developing my skills and characters, devoting for my people, sharpening my values.

No titles and achievements stay relevant for long. Flashy things impress people in a short stint, while their span of attention and memory is limited. A few years from now what they are going to remember is what you meant to them and how you made them feel. A few years from now, what is going to stay with you and never leave is your characters, values, and skills.

What doesn't matter?

Anything that you can live without, count that as one thing that doesn't matter.

To go anywhere worth going, you have to be very clear of your direction and what you're going to get in the near future. You also have to be clear on what you can let go to get what you want.

For years I set a goal to run in the park at 5 every morning. Each time I could only endure for a week. Being fit was never what I actually care about, I only needed to be healthy enough to stay mentally alert throughout the day.

You only have a certain amount of hours for yourself every day, and to me, quality time alone is incredibly significant to a young person building their characters. In these hours, you can only choose one thing in a period of time to focus on. This is where you decide what you're willing to give up in order to gain something of substance.

Flashy things impress people in a short while but their span of attention and memory is limited. A few years from now what they are going to remember is what you meant to them and how you made them feel.

Anything that you can live without, count that as one thing that doesn't matter.

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